How To Support Your LGBTQ+ Family Members
Hello, loving and supportive humans. Today, I want to share some heartfelt guidance on how you can support your LGBTQ+ family members. In my practice I've had the privilege of working with many individuals and families navigating this journey. Let’s explore some ways to show your love, understanding, and acceptance, making a positive impact on the lives of your LGBTQ+ loved ones.
Understanding the Importance of Support
When a family member comes out as LGBTQ+, it can be a time of growth and learning for everyone involved. Your support plays a crucial role in their well-being and acceptance. Research shows that LGBTQ+ individuals with supportive families experience better mental health, higher self-esteem, and a greater sense of belonging. Here are some practical and meaningful ways to provide that support.
1. Listen with an Open Heart
When your family member comes out to you, the most important thing you can do is listen. Create a safe and non-judgmental space for them to share their feelings and experiences. Show empathy and understanding, and let them know that you’re there for them.
2. Educate Yourself
Take the time to learn about LGBTQ+ issues, terminology, and experiences. Understanding the challenges and triumphs of the LGBTQ+ community can help you be a more informed and supportive ally. There are many resources available to help you on this journey.
Resources for Education:
3. Show Acceptance and Affirmation
Express your acceptance and affirmation openly. Simple statements like “I love you for who you are” and “I’m proud of you” can mean the world to your LGBTQ+ family member. Affirm their identity by using their chosen name and pronouns.
4. Be an Advocate
Stand up against discrimination and prejudice, both within and outside your family. Advocate for LGBTQ+ rights and inclusion in your community. Your actions can help create a safer and more accepting environment for your loved one.
Resources for Advocacy:
Human Rights Campaign (HRC): Offers resources for advocating LGBTQ+ equality.
The Trevor Project: Provides crisis intervention and advocacy for LGBTQ+ youth.
5. Provide Emotional and Practical Support
Support your LGBTQ+ family member in practical ways, such as attending inclusive events together, connecting them with supportive communities, or helping them access LGBTQ+ friendly healthcare services. Emotional support, like offering a shoulder to lean on during tough times, is equally vital.
6. Respect Their Privacy
Respect your family member’s privacy and let them control their coming out process. Each person’s journey is unique, and they may not be ready to come out to everyone at once. Honor their wishes and support them at their own pace.
7. Celebrate Their Identity
Celebrate milestones and achievements related to their LGBTQ+ identity. Whether it’s Pride Month, National Coming Out Day, or personal accomplishments, join them in support and celebrating who they are.
8. Seek Support for Yourself
It’s okay to seek support for yourself as well. Connecting with other families of LGBTQ+ individuals can provide a sense of community and shared experience. Support groups and counseling can offer guidance as you navigate your own journey of understanding and acceptance.
Support for Families:
PFLAG: Provides local chapters and support groups for families.
The Family Acceptance Project: Offers research-based resources to help families support their LGBTQ+ members.
I’ve seen the incredible difference that family support can make in the lives of LGBTQ+ individuals. Your love, acceptance, and advocacy are powerful tools in helping your family member thrive. Remember, this journey is about growing together, learning from one another, and building a more inclusive and compassionate world.
If you have any questions or need further guidance, don’t hesitate to reach out. Together, we can create a safe and supportive environment for all our loved ones.
With warmth and solidarity,
Kendra Sievers
LCSW